Questions to ask yourself to know who you really are.

You know that quote by Tony Robbins – “The quality of your life depends on the quality of your questions”? Man, some days I wish I could un-see that quote and go back to not caring or questioning how the world works. But then I realize if I didn’t ask those deep questions, I’d never find my true self or passions. I’d just let society and others influence me constantly.

Asking myself tough questions over and over until the answers felt truly me – that’s what finally allowed me to start over and reinvent myself. And you can do that too, especially with all this pandemic downtime for self-reflection.

But how do you really get to know yourself? It’s like trying to become friends with someone new. You start with easy questions to warm up, then work your way into the deeper, more personal stuff once you’re comfortable. Journaling is the perfect way to have this conversation with yourself.

Journaling literally cured my depression and helped me discover my life’s purpose. Even just 10 minutes in the morning or before bed can be so powerful. Wake up knowing you’ve done something for yourself. Go to sleep after getting stuff off your chest.

Try picking one of these prompts for the week or doing one daily. After a month, I bet you’ll be amazed at how much better you know yourself:

  1. Describe your perfect day from start to finish.
  2. Where do you want to work and what type of job?
  3. Do you have an untapped spiritual side?
  4. What special gift can you offer the world?
  5. How do you define “fun”?
  6. What fun thing will you do this weekend?
  7. What is your heart telling you to do with this life?
  8. Which historical figure inspires you the most and why?
  9. When thinking about the future, what scares you most?
  10. Name a song that describes your life story.
  11. Write about an opportunity you missed. What would you do differently next time?
  12. Write about a time you truly felt loved and valued.
  13. What characteristics do you look for in a friend?
  14. After a day of solitude, did you feel bored or energized?
  15. Do you tell people how much they mean to you, or just show it?
  16. After getting great news, who do you tell first – parents, bestie, or social media?
  17. What do you do to cheer yourself up when feeling down or sad?
  18. When overwhelmed, do you ask for help or go it alone?
  19. How do you show love to yourself?
  20. How do you respond to compliments on a job well done or your appearance?
  21. When not getting what you deserve, do you speak up?
  22. How do you feel when saying no to someone’s request?
  23. Would your friends say you’re a positive person?
  24. How do you express gratitude?
  25. What motivates you more – the potential reward or consequences?
  26. Do you enjoy learning? What ensures you’re always learning something new?
  27. How did your parents’ relationship impact your view of love/relationships?
  28. When was the last time you gave up on a goal and why?
  29. How have you grown as a person this past year?
  30. With hard conversations, do you change the subject or walk away?
  31. How often do you apologize even when not at fault?

Getting to really know yourself is the first step to mastering anything. As Aristotle said,

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

I’m excited for you to dive into these prompts! Let me know how it goes.

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