Yes I’m Single. So What?

I’ve been single since I was a teenager, but it’s by choice, and I’m completely happy with it. I don’t get why some people think it’s weird.

The other day, an old friend I hadn’t spoken to for almost 3 years texted me. The first thing she asked was if I had a girlfriend.

“You’ve grown up so much,” she said. “You must have a girlfriend, right?”

“Nope, I’m single,” I replied.

She said, “Oh, you’re kidding, right? Your younger brother even has a girlfriend!”

Honestly, I’m not bothered. I’m young, I’m free, and I’m enjoying my life.

Being single is a good thing, in my opinion. Sometimes I even feel a little sorry for people who are dating. Seriously.

Here’s why…

I Don’t Want to Waste Time

I’m still figuring out my own life.

I’m not sure about my career or where I’ll end up living, so dating isn’t a priority for me.

I can’t focus on both dating and figuring out my life at the same time. If I take a new job opportunity, I might have to move far away from my loved ones, and that could strain a relationship.

I see a relationship as a serious commitment, not just something casual. I won’t get into one until I’m absolutely sure it’s right.

Isn’t dating someone and realizing it’s not a good fit kind of like a failed investment? You put in time and energy, only to find out it wasn’t worth it.

I know I’ll find love eventually, but right now, I’m young. This is the perfect time to focus on figuring out my life.

Dating can always wait, right?

It’s About Minimalism

I love minimalism because it means less stress.

Fewer possessions mean fewer things to worry about. And it’s the same with relationships.

A relationship isn’t just love and happiness; it comes with responsibility.

Being in a relationship means caring for your partner, spending time together, giving gifts, listening to their problems, and more.

So, I’m okay with being single. My life is simpler this way.

I appreciate the time I have to myself. It allows me to focus on hobbies, work, and my own interests.

Plus, I have better control over my emotions.

I don’t have to deal with arguments or petty fights. And most importantly, no one can manipulate my feelings through love.

Some might say being single is lonely, and I do feel that sometimes. But it’s just a fleeting feeling. While love might fill that void, it often brings other problems along with it.

Maybe you should actually feel sorry for those stuck in the love-drunk haze.

Dating is so common for people in their teens and twenties, but I think a lot of them are missing the point.

They think dating will make them happier, but it’s really just a temporary fix.

Instead of feeling sorry for single people, maybe they should feel sorry for themselves.

If they see dating as their only source of happiness, doesn’t that mean their life is kind of boring?

In one of his podcasts, Mark Manson talks about how living life as a series of quick fixes might seem exciting, but it’s actually the opposite.

He uses the example of people who don’t drink. They’re often seen as boring, but the truth is, it’s the drinkers who have boring lives. They don’t know what to do with themselves besides drink.

I’m not saying dating is bad, but it shouldn’t be your only source of happiness or a way to escape from life.

Anyone can be happy while single. True happiness comes from within, not from someone else. If you rely on others for your happiness, they can easily take it away.

Before you start worrying about what others are doing, focus on yourself.

“There are so many things you can do to make your own life more meaningful and fulfilling.“